Archive for Self Love
Venting Your Frustration on Food: Emotional Eating and Stress
Posted by: | CommentsNourishment is a big part of living and we need to eat to stay healthy and energized. But what if we find ourselves using food to sate another sort of hunger? There’s this issue called emotional eating, and millions of men and women face this problem every single day.
Emotional eating starts inside our minds, but it doesn’t stay there. Soon we observe how we’re gaining weight faster than we can lose it. Frustrations and stress are the most common factors that contribute to emotional eating because these lower our defenses and bust our self control.
Have you ever heard of comfort food? These aren’t healthy at all, but they serve a certain purpose. They make us feel pampered and relaxed. The more we consume these types of food, the more we feel our stress ebbing. This notion has led many to the forefronts of the battle with obesity, and a lot of these individuals don’t survive. Whether it’s diabetes or hypertension, one disease or another contributes to bigger and deadlier problems.
How to Handle the Stress that Leads to Emotional Eating?
1. Never Think “I’m the only one with problems”
Every single person has good and bad hair days. In fact, not a single individual can claim that every single day is perfect. There will always be some days that don’t sparkle like the rest, and you’re definitely not the only one handling the same issues and facing the same problems.
The key to handling a bad day is being able to bounce back to where you were before your bad day started. We deal with bad times and unexpected problems differently, but we all share the same potential to bounce back no matter how bad the situation is.
Look at your co-workers, the people in the subway and even your own mom. They have problems, some even bigger than yours, but you don’t see them guzzling every single carbonated drink inside the fridge do you?
2. Talk
It doesn’t matter who, as long as you have a way of expressing your frustration. Sometimes, saying “I’m having a bad day” out loud to someone who cares will help you get over it. It’s also fun to banter with others when you’re feeling down. You might be surprised how a few minutes of good company will improve your mood.
Recognizing your potential to use food destructively is the first step to recovery. As soon as you understand that you have a problem, the rest of the healing process will be easy. Some people live in denial for a long time; but deep inside, guilt prevails.
As long as you’re willing to open yourself up to the healing process, counseling will work for you. A qualified counselor will encourage you to talk about your experiences and it pays to be completely honest with this person. Be open to help and you will soon get over the stress, the emotional eating and the feeling of anxiety that you’re doing something wrong.
It’s Prom Time! How to be a Diva Prom Queen?
Posted by: | CommentsIn this article we are going to address the serious issue of “how to be a prom queen” in the most beautiful night of your teenage life! Here again is the time to be a princess and the plethora of available businesses that sell prom dresses There are several things to consider when you’re aiming to be the most glamorous prom queen ever in your high school.
1. First off, there is competition… really stiff competition. The classmates you shared your middle school memories with all want what you want… to be crowned the queen of the prom! But you are not fazed, not even close to being scared. You see, that’s the spirit of being a queen. You know you are the one and all the rest are simply dreaming, right? Confidence, when combined with the proper planning will make you the prom queen; no matter how the others pretify themselves or plan on buying the most fabulous prom dresses.
2. Consider the Prom Themes - Your administrators will usually give hints on the theme of this year’s prom. Your job is to plan around that. You can start by browsing the net or asking relatives and friends if they know of some really elegant ideas for prom dresses and prom advice. Regardless if it’s a fairytale-inpired theme or a goth-gone-wild type of prom ball, you must be ready to adapt your style according to the theme.
3. Plan the logistics -Did you know that the main reason why things just start to fall apart at the last minute? It’s because everything was rushed (to the very last minute!). You cannot risk a disaster when you are the diva prom queen. You and your friends cannot risk a smudge or a rip on your prom dresses just because you had to hurry to the car, slam the door and tell your dad or brother to hurry, please. You can just imagine the pristine aura of the girls who planned ahead. You don’t want to rush and you don’t want to act like you rushed to the party with little to no preparation, so… plan your logistics ahead!
4. The Expense of this Whole Prom Thing - It is no secret that money is an issue all the time, particularly now that the economy is in shambles. Is there a way to save cash even without scrimping on prom dresses Jovani
? There is. The dress is non-negotiable but the accessories are. You can buy fashion jewelry instead of buying the real thing. No one will know, and no one will even question your accessories because you have stunned them into believing that you are the most glamorous diva in the prom!
A Diva in Business: Curbing Retail Therapy and Getting a Free Credit Report
Posted by: | CommentsI’ve been discussing the “Diva Entrepreneur” concepts with a friend, and we isolated one single thing that keeps women from finding their place in the business world: overspending and retail therapy. You see, I believe that each girl has a business sense that is more finely tuned than a man’s, but this third sense in business has an emotional counterpart. Some women, when they are stressed or heartbroken lose their focus and that’s when it all falls apart. An entrepreneur can take charge in every single aspect of her business, from watching her credit score like hawk, to inventorizing, to finding ways to improve credit standing.
Entrepreneurial success is no accident, particularly when the woman behind the successful enterprise has the passion and the mindset necessary to improve her spending strategy. A lot of us are crippled by retail therapy, particularly if we cannot afford it.It’s not like we mean to spend every single dime in our account on a gadget, it’s just that we are looking for a quick fix. We may be feeling like we are never giving ourselves enough or we think we deserve something to make us smile after a long hard day of dealing with finnicky customers. However we justify it, retail therapy when we barely have money to cover our daily needs, and we are close to maxing the good ol’ plastic card, is counterproductive.
The solution? Start a business.
A small enterprise is a diva’s brainchild. If a diva invests all of her time to making her business grow, she will feel good about herself, and she will improve her lifestyle. Isn’t it better to celebrate a success with retail therapy than use retail shopping as a way to simulate a success?
The first step to building a business is to avail of a free credit report to gauge the extent of the damage caused by your previous spending. If you’re standing is sound, go ahead and invest a part of your floating money on a planned out venture.
Personal Debt Management: A Dash of Self Love Will Go a Long Way
Posted by: | CommentsEveryone wants to be loved, but the big difference lies in how they want to be loved, and what loving means to them. Do you measure love in terms of the number of people you attract, the fame that comes with it, or in terms of how many want your attention? A lot of people profess that they are unlucky in love, but what they really mean is that they’re failing in one aspect in their lives that doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with giving and receiving love.
It all starts with loving yourself.
Psychological health is seldom discussed outside the shrink’s office, and when finally brought up, becomes a thing that only psychologists and life coaches can deal with. People who admit that “they have a problem” take the first step to mending their lives, but the whole process becomes a convoluted array of counselling sessions and antidepressant pills. Is there a way to make the self loving process simple? One thing that people fail to understand is that they put so much stress on themselves when they don’t need to.
Do not do anything that will cause you stress in the future. Setting yourself up for financial ruin by borrowing too much now to assuage that nagging guilt that you’re not loving yourself more will not help you really give something back to yourself in the future.
One example of this is the credit card issue. Let’s say one person owes 500 dollars in credit and is allowed to borrow up to a thousand. Does he resolve the 500 dollar debt first before even touching the rest of the credit limit? Or, would he use it until it maxes out then worry about everything later?
Worry is the keyword there. I can tell you now that the best gift you can give to yourself is peace of mind. Allow yourself breathing room, to live free of obligation and anxiety. This starts with an overhaul of your spending habits. You must not treat each ‘frugal’ move as a self sacrifice. Think of frugality and thrift as a means of giving yourself that feeling of not owing anything to anyone.
Self love means imposing tough love on yourself.
Like our parents tell us “You have to do this so that you will be well off in the future”. Always think of what kind of emotional and psychological state you will be in. Aiming for a stress-free future becomes the new goal.
Real Friendship: Golden Friends Don’t Glitter
Posted by: | Comments“All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither, deep roots are not reached by the frost. ”
-J.R.R. Tolkien
One of the most frustrating things in life is Trusting and Trust per se, particularly “the act of” and “who to”, respectively. Many individuals who succumb to depression and bouts of panic attacks have trust issues, and who can blame them? It’s one thing to always consider the goodness in every man, and another thing to place unbiased trust on someone who could bite you as soon as you turn your back.
Friendship is a Trial and Error Process
Not everyone we call ‘friends’ will know that we treat them as such. At the same time, there are people who offer us true friendship, but we may never know how much they care until trouble hits.
The strangest thing in the world is how we are linked to some people, and how some people will NEVER really be worth our trust. It’s just the gut feeling that a person can keep your confidence, while another could be trusted only with the most trivial matters. Our relationships are defined not by niceness but by track record.
Break ups between friends are not unheard of, and these could sometimes be worse than breaking up with a lover. Luckily, if the friendship is real, no amount of strife can keep two friends from being linked together by a force called ‘mutual concern’. Soon, friends who have been kept apart by issues come back to each other because they realize how trivial it is to dwell on past issues and not their lasting friendship.
Real friends are those who love you, care for you and look out for you even if they don’t shout it out, shower you with gifts or remind you often.
These real friends are also “tough love” experts that could turn you off once in a while.
