Archive for Self Help
Prom Dresses: Smart Shopping for the Prom
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A diva is empowered in her own joy, and has fun in any event. When prom time comes, beautiful young divas are more than likely to get stressed about the little things that don’t really matter in the end. First, let’s put everything into perspective. A prom is a way to connect with your friends and classmates. It is a celebration of youth and the special bond between young couples.
It is something that you will remember for the rest of your life, so you shouldn’t get stressed worrying about your outfit and accessories. Browsing online with your best friend or a female relative can be relaxing too, and there are some really lovely prom dresses and prom shoes (from promgirl.net) to look at while you’re planning your fabulous prom ensemble.
On promgirl.net you will see various shades of elegant colors like pink (soft, light and dark), red (candy red and dark red), black (metallic and matte), and pastel colors (my favorite!). The shoes on that site are beautifully designed and are extremely complementary to the gowns you will see there.
Relax, take a deep breath, take a carefree trip to the mall, or consult with your mom for some helpful prom tips (and to hear more prom advice and her own unforgettable prom stories). Get a prom dress that suits your build (make sure you get the size right!)
Not all divas are built the same. Some may have short torsos (relative to their legs) and some may have longer legs. Whatever your build, you must choose gowns that complement your figure. Get real with yourself and look at the mirror. Do you really have a build that’s close to a supermodel’s?
Some young divas diet like crazy before the prom, just so they will fit into the tiny clothes they bought. Getting desperate about your figure because you bought a dress that’s a few sizes smaller than the actual is the number one stress factor during prom season. “I’ll fit inside this dress no matter what”, yes we’ve heard it before.
The rule of thumb is to get something that fits you perfectly and work to maintain that build (so that you won’t gain much weight) until prom time.
Do not choose something that you want to wear just because someone else (like your favorite celebrity) is able to pull it off. You are unique, and your proportions are also unique. Choose something that fits so that you won’t be stressed the whole night thinking about bulges and creases (where you folded your ill-fitting gown to make it fit). There are hundreds of prom dresses to choose from, and for sure one is meant exactly for you, like kismet!
Have fun on your prom. Remember that you’re young and happy, and should look and feel like the diva that you are.
Venting Your Frustration on Food: Emotional Eating and Stress
Posted by: | CommentsNourishment is a big part of living and we need to eat to stay healthy and energized. But what if we find ourselves using food to sate another sort of hunger? There’s this issue called emotional eating, and millions of men and women face this problem every single day.
Emotional eating starts inside our minds, but it doesn’t stay there. Soon we observe how we’re gaining weight faster than we can lose it. Frustrations and stress are the most common factors that contribute to emotional eating because these lower our defenses and bust our self control.
Have you ever heard of comfort food? These aren’t healthy at all, but they serve a certain purpose. They make us feel pampered and relaxed. The more we consume these types of food, the more we feel our stress ebbing. This notion has led many to the forefronts of the battle with obesity, and a lot of these individuals don’t survive. Whether it’s diabetes or hypertension, one disease or another contributes to bigger and deadlier problems.
How to Handle the Stress that Leads to Emotional Eating?
1. Never Think “I’m the only one with problems”
Every single person has good and bad hair days. In fact, not a single individual can claim that every single day is perfect. There will always be some days that don’t sparkle like the rest, and you’re definitely not the only one handling the same issues and facing the same problems.
The key to handling a bad day is being able to bounce back to where you were before your bad day started. We deal with bad times and unexpected problems differently, but we all share the same potential to bounce back no matter how bad the situation is.
Look at your co-workers, the people in the subway and even your own mom. They have problems, some even bigger than yours, but you don’t see them guzzling every single carbonated drink inside the fridge do you?
2. Talk
It doesn’t matter who, as long as you have a way of expressing your frustration. Sometimes, saying “I’m having a bad day” out loud to someone who cares will help you get over it. It’s also fun to banter with others when you’re feeling down. You might be surprised how a few minutes of good company will improve your mood.
Recognizing your potential to use food destructively is the first step to recovery. As soon as you understand that you have a problem, the rest of the healing process will be easy. Some people live in denial for a long time; but deep inside, guilt prevails.
As long as you’re willing to open yourself up to the healing process, counseling will work for you. A qualified counselor will encourage you to talk about your experiences and it pays to be completely honest with this person. Be open to help and you will soon get over the stress, the emotional eating and the feeling of anxiety that you’re doing something wrong.
Personal Debt Management: A Dash of Self Love Will Go a Long Way
Posted by: | CommentsEveryone wants to be loved, but the big difference lies in how they want to be loved, and what loving means to them. Do you measure love in terms of the number of people you attract, the fame that comes with it, or in terms of how many want your attention? A lot of people profess that they are unlucky in love, but what they really mean is that they’re failing in one aspect in their lives that doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with giving and receiving love.
It all starts with loving yourself.
Psychological health is seldom discussed outside the shrink’s office, and when finally brought up, becomes a thing that only psychologists and life coaches can deal with. People who admit that “they have a problem” take the first step to mending their lives, but the whole process becomes a convoluted array of counselling sessions and antidepressant pills. Is there a way to make the self loving process simple? One thing that people fail to understand is that they put so much stress on themselves when they don’t need to.
Do not do anything that will cause you stress in the future. Setting yourself up for financial ruin by borrowing too much now to assuage that nagging guilt that you’re not loving yourself more will not help you really give something back to yourself in the future.
One example of this is the credit card issue. Let’s say one person owes 500 dollars in credit and is allowed to borrow up to a thousand. Does he resolve the 500 dollar debt first before even touching the rest of the credit limit? Or, would he use it until it maxes out then worry about everything later?
Worry is the keyword there. I can tell you now that the best gift you can give to yourself is peace of mind. Allow yourself breathing room, to live free of obligation and anxiety. This starts with an overhaul of your spending habits. You must not treat each ‘frugal’ move as a self sacrifice. Think of frugality and thrift as a means of giving yourself that feeling of not owing anything to anyone.
Self love means imposing tough love on yourself.
Like our parents tell us “You have to do this so that you will be well off in the future”. Always think of what kind of emotional and psychological state you will be in. Aiming for a stress-free future becomes the new goal.
Recovering: Standing Up and Moving On
Posted by: | CommentsWe are to ourselves just what we think we are
-Phineas Parkhurst Quimby
Inventorizing is not just a term that we use in business. We use it also to build (or re-build) our self image. Those who are recovering from a loss, or a really bad blow in life must start reorganizing by taking note of what’s left.
It’s easy enough to say “I’ve lost everything” when all the things around you, including your feelings are in disarray. Start by realizing that you are still alive. The fact that you can still feel something means you can still feel relief. No matter how painful the hurt, if you are still hurting, it means you can also feel it subside.
Stand up, take a look around you and within you. Be a friend to yourself and be compassionate to what your heart is telling you. It hurts from all the torture. Your better qualities have not left you, you just became blind to them. Look at them in a new light as you stand up from a bad tumble.
Romance and Self Esteem
Posted by: | CommentsLove-Junkie? That’s me.
Romance is a feel-good thing we crave for, long for and dream about. It will never cease to be a factor in our daily lives as women. We need it to be inspired somewhat, and we know it. I feel sad when I hear stories about couples that find themselves lying next to a stranger after 30 or so years of marriage. One wonders what happened to the fairytale wedding that propelled the marriage. That they lasted that long means they have weathered most storms right?
Sadly, some unions lose the romance and become jaded. I never thought it’s be possible to get jaded together, but apparently it is. Apparently, it doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time to grow away from a partner. The couple’s relationship is at the center of the family’s life. There was husband and wife before there was mother and father.
A woman’s healthy self esteem sometimes stems from the fact that she knows she is loved, and wanted by her partner. Like the cliche goes, a woman ‘blooms’ inside a loving relationship, making her productive, able and all the more willing to pursue endeavors and businesses.
Kids will grow up and soon, it will be just you and your partner again. When the kids are able to take care of themselves, we can relax with our partners. Feeling the love and appreciation of our partners strengthens us and keeps us going. Romance and intimacy play a significant role in keeping us confident.
