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Many people have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
- by Helen Keller
I have always believed that if someone wants something so badly that she can taste it, feel it in her hands and smell it, she will get it eventually. This is considering that she will do everything in her power to get it. A single minded purpose to obtain our goals will make it happen.
In the course of making things happen for us, temptations to let go of our intent come to seduce us out of our resolve. These could be doubts in our abilities, alternative choices offered by others, and simply lethargy, the loss of the will to pursue a dream.
A few things that one has to consider in setting goals
1. One has to delineate a specific objective
2. Mapping out a step-by-step strategy
3. Following the strategy strictly and systematically
4. Adjusting to some setbacks but moving forward nonetheless
5. Staying humble in victory
Like a guiding light house, one must go to the direction of her dreams no matter what happens. Never deviating from the path leading to ultimate gratification. Loyalty to a purpose is the vow we give to ourselves and the promise we must keep.
Love-Junkie? That’s me.
Romance is a feel-good thing we crave for, long for and dream about. It will never cease to be a factor in our daily lives as women. We need it to be inspired somewhat, and we know it. I feel sad when I hear stories about couples that find themselves lying next to a stranger after 30 or so years of marriage. One wonders what happened to the fairytale wedding that propelled the marriage. That they lasted that long means they have weathered most storms right?
Sadly, some unions lose the romance and become jaded. I never thought it’s be possible to get jaded together, but apparently it is. Apparently, it doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time to grow away from a partner. The couple’s relationship is at the center of the family’s life. There was husband and wife before there was mother and father.
A woman’s healthy self esteem sometimes stems from the fact that she knows she is loved, and wanted by her partner. Like the cliche goes, a woman ‘blooms’ inside a loving relationship, making her productive, able and all the more willing to pursue endeavors and businesses.
Kids will grow up and soon, it will be just you and your partner again. When the kids are able to take care of themselves, we can relax with our partners. Feeling the love and appreciation of our partners strengthens us and keeps us going. Romance and intimacy play a significant role in keeping us confident.
I have a passion for languages, and one of the most intriguing languages for me is French. When I started studying French years ago, I felt elated, happy and totally in control. I guess that’s what anyone who pampers herself feels.
I did it not just for learning more about the world, but also for giving myself something to look forward to each day. By fueling my dream to learn another language, and learn about the European country, France, at the same time, I wake up eager to go to the office and dress my best. This is because I know that when the clock strikes five, I’ll be inside a classroom with other students saying our oui’s and non’s.
It made me happy.
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I learned a trick from a former dorm mate. She keeps a diary that isn’t really a secret one, she lets us read every once in a while, or she reads her entries to us. The only weird thing at that time was the way she divided a page in her notebook and only wrote on one side. If you viewed a page from afar, like we all do, it would seem as if she’d suddenly freak out if she accidentally wrote something on the other side. It was spotless.
I got curious enough to ask, of course, and her answer startled me a bit. She writes her daily thoughts on the left part, and the right part is for writing her thoughts when ’she knows more’. It’s like self-therapy and self-discovery.
Here’s an example to illustrate how this self-coaching method works:
On one part of the page, I wrote about how scared I am to start freelancing. Listed there are the reasons why I hesitate and how I plan to start. A few months later, I write about my experiences with conquering my fear and actually doing it.
This way, I analyze the way I think and find a pattern. I can directly pinpoint my weak points, what things usually debilitate me too much that I just quit.
My goal of course is to lessen my procrastination. If I can do this regularly, I know I will be a better person.
I think there is a specific age when single people start craving for automobiles. I think it’s between 21 and 25, while the person is starting a career or getting promoted after a year or so in an entry level position. This is like a status symbol among young ones, a sign that one is moving up the social and financial ladder. Obtaining a loan for a car during your early twenties makes sense in that you can pay for it until you’re 30 and then be able to say that you own the car completely when you reach the age of contentment.
While I am aware of these things, I chose to commute my way through traffic in Metropolis Manila. Although admittedly jealous at how some of my friends are cruising around with their new cars and getting involved with loan for car agents, I am nonetheless content with my decision.
An automobile symbolizes additional responsibility, which I wasn’t ready for. I was 22, earning just enough to sustain my love for languages and my daily needs. Perhaps the only thing I failed to study in depth was the debt system, and how I could have made it work for me. Nowadays, the car issue is still an issue as I feel that I should do everything in my power for my child to live comfortably.