Archive for July, 2008
Goal Setting: Loyalty to a Purpose
Posted by: | CommentsMany people have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
- by Helen Keller
I have always believed that if someone wants something so badly that she can taste it, feel it in her hands and smell it, she will get it eventually. This is considering that she will do everything in her power to get it. A single minded purpose to obtain our goals will make it happen.
In the course of making things happen for us, temptations to let go of our intent come to seduce us out of our resolve. These could be doubts in our abilities, alternative choices offered by others, and simply lethargy, the loss of the will to pursue a dream.
A few things that one has to consider in setting goals
1. One has to delineate a specific objective
2. Mapping out a step-by-step strategy
3. Following the strategy strictly and systematically
4. Adjusting to some setbacks but moving forward nonetheless
5. Staying humble in victory
Like a guiding light house, one must go to the direction of her dreams no matter what happens. Never deviating from the path leading to ultimate gratification. Loyalty to a purpose is the vow we give to ourselves and the promise we must keep.
Romance and Self Esteem
Posted by: | CommentsLove-Junkie? That’s me.
Romance is a feel-good thing we crave for, long for and dream about. It will never cease to be a factor in our daily lives as women. We need it to be inspired somewhat, and we know it. I feel sad when I hear stories about couples that find themselves lying next to a stranger after 30 or so years of marriage. One wonders what happened to the fairytale wedding that propelled the marriage. That they lasted that long means they have weathered most storms right?
Sadly, some unions lose the romance and become jaded. I never thought it’s be possible to get jaded together, but apparently it is. Apparently, it doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time to grow away from a partner. The couple’s relationship is at the center of the family’s life. There was husband and wife before there was mother and father.
A woman’s healthy self esteem sometimes stems from the fact that she knows she is loved, and wanted by her partner. Like the cliche goes, a woman ‘blooms’ inside a loving relationship, making her productive, able and all the more willing to pursue endeavors and businesses.
Kids will grow up and soon, it will be just you and your partner again. When the kids are able to take care of themselves, we can relax with our partners. Feeling the love and appreciation of our partners strengthens us and keeps us going. Romance and intimacy play a significant role in keeping us confident.
Supplementing Know How: Information Technology
Posted by: | CommentsTechnology and progress are concepts that remain ‘just concepts’ until one goes out of her way to learn it. Computers and internet knowledge were just recently introduced, and the whole world adjusted to accommodate them, particularly the businesses. Suddenly, a mandatory requirement of any job opportunity is computer knowledge. Those people who are blessed with the curiosity to make this whole new world work are among the ones who are sought after and constantly badgered. The few, the proud, the IT people.
Some say that IT is common sense and a business owner can self-learn. This isn’t quite true. In fact, most people would rather let professionals do their networks rather than risk a crucial aspect of the business, such as the whole payroll automation process. Suddenly, human error in production means that a programmer forgot to enter a code or a snippet of information in a database.
The good news is business owners don’t have to be IT experts to be in business. They can hire a technical support staff to figure something out for them. However, there is a danger in hiring an IT support staff. Strict clauses in work contracts must be set for protection of your business data. Your IT guy could run off with the technology you paid for, and that will be disastrous.
Businesses don’t need an in-house IT department, they can simply outsource it. A reliable IT solutions company such as our advertiser NY IT Consulting can do the job of keeping the business’ network flowing smoothly.
What else does a non-techie business owner have to do? Read and re-read agreements, including the fine print… or learn IT fast.
Forgiving Yourself: The Diva’s Creed
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We have all been burnt before. From the moment we learned how to handle things as kids to the time when we are old enough to know better, we get rubbed the wrong way, maligned and other things that make us feel like we did something wrong. While we find it so easy to say “forgive and forget”, this line is often translated as “forget and never learn”.
We often think of forgiveness as an action related with our external connections without realizing that the same notion applies to ourselves. I, myself, have been in a situation wherein I focused on forgiving others rather than myself first.
One example: I have always disliked how a boyfriend made me look like a fool by cheating on me. Because of this, I felt that I hated him and anything remotely related to him. I have since forgiven him for his transgression but still could not be comfortable talking to him. Now, I realize what was lacking. I have yet to forgive myself for letting him take advantage of my cluelessness.
The Diva’s Creed of Self Forgiveness
Say this to yourself whenever you feel depressed, sad or self pitying. This has always worked for me. This, for me, is the first step to forgiving others:
I (your name) forgive myself for being (insert negative adjectives here, e.g. stupid). I vow to learn from this experience and never let myself feel down for being (insert negative adjective here) again.
Sentimental Diva Accessories: Why a Diamond is Forever
Posted by: | CommentsEvery lady has a jewelry box. Even the poorest waif will have a little box of her beautiful baubles. It’s a woman’s tiny but significant pleasure to touch, wear and see her treasures every once in a while. My grandmother, the original diva blogger (though she ‘blogged’ through us), gave me some of hers. I asked her how she could part with her jewels, and why she was giving them to me then.
She told me that a piece of jewelry is a gift from people who value a lady’s smile enough to give it. It is a remembrance of a special event or a significant time in her life. By passing the heirlooms to her grandchildren, she ensured that those memories will live on, even when she’s gone. Wordlessly, I accepted her gifts, together with a prayer that she will live long enough to see me pass them on to my offspring. When she died, the heirlooms that she gave me became more valuable as I consider them full of her memories of her mother, and now, full of my memories of her as well.
Passing by a jewelry site is always exciting, but a wee bit nostalgic for me. For all I know, someone might be buying these beautifully intricate diamond stud earrings at this very moment, with an image in his mind of the diva he will give it to. Will she realize just how lovingly he chose those for her among all the carefully showcased beauties?
Some of the diamonds showcased in this site are small enough for younger goddesses to wear. I remember going to a clinic and smiling at the yelling baby girls having their first piercing. Bless you, little diva, was all I can say in my mind. It’s like a diva christening of sorts, a small step to the young one’s womanhood.
I particularly marvel at the December birthstone, blue topaz. Set in white gold, these blue topaz jewelry so aptly reflect the world’s condition during the birth month of the winter-born. Like a clear blue, frozen lake set in winter’s quiet chill.
Here’s a sliver of luck for those in the US who will visit the site. MyJewelryBox.com is raffling off a diamond flower pendant. Lots of diva-kissed luck to you!
